Ok, no offense here, but these "how do I get over him/her" are getting kind of tiring. It's been done over and over with generally the same advice over and over. So, here are some tips on how to get over them after a breakup... please add anything that I may have missed.
1) Cut off all communication: that means don't talk to them; delete/erase phone numbers, e-mail addresses, IM addresses, etc.; don't look up profiles or seek them out in any way, shape or fashion. This will keep you from that urge to contact them.
2) Get rid of any gifts, notes, letters, etc. that are sentimental to you: don't give them back to your ex. Give them away to Goodwill, whatever. Do not keep them.
3) Hang out with friends.
4) Don't jump into another relationship. This is unfair to a new partner if you are not over your ex.
5) Do something active: run, exercise, go see a movie, go shopping, etc.
6) Try to think about all the things you did NOT like about your partner. People break up for a reason.
7) Write your thoughts down in a journal or write a letter to your ex about how you feel about everything... DO NOT give it to them.
8) Remember to not be afraid to be alone. It's not the end of the world and you will always find someone else down the road. It is OK to be alone.
9) Do not try and be friends with your ex UNLESS you can get over them. Once you are over them, then you can think about being friends with them. If you are not over them and you continue with contacting them, you will not be able to get over them especially when they are dating someone new.
10) Do not wallow in alcohol. It will only make you feel worse... trust me on this one.
11) It takes time...
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